Have you ever felt like you’ve been speaking in a foreign language to your partner? Every time you try to do something romantic, it either backfires or falls flat. Understandably, you are growing frustrated that your efforts are going unnoticed. This problem isn’t a rarity. In fact, many couples struggle with this specific problem because they lack the understanding of their own and their partner’s love language. Learn how a little groundwork can revitalize your relationship and bring it to the next level:
What is a love language?
“The Five Love Languages” was a book written by Gary Chapman. Chapman dives deep into intimate relationships and finds that individuals express their love in a multitude of ways. Most commonly is through physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time and gifts. Often times when couples felt as if they fell out of love, they actually were speaking to each other in different love languages. Understanding how you would like love expressed to you will help your relationship immensely.
Why is it effective?
The Five Love Languages is a simple this-or-that quiz that helps pinpoint your preference. Your preference demonstrates how you best feel loved. For instance, is it more meaningful that your partner did the dishes without asking or if they surprise you with a bouquet of flowers? This simple either-or quiz helps you communicate those needs and desires to your partner.
This quiz dives deeper and helps each individual understand the psychology behind their partner’s preferences. But at its core, this quiz helps couples start a dialogue. This seems simple, yet, for some couples, starting to talk is the most intimidating step toward growing a healthy relationship.
How does this work in couples therapy?
Couples therapy is a daunting task for most people. To some, going to couples therapy is admitting defeat or that a problem even exists. Yet, couples therapy isn’t only for couples who are struggling. Couples therapy is an effective tool for couples to efficiently navigates hiccups within their relationships. Whether it’s a problem that re-emerges time and time again or whether you want to learn how to better communicate with your partner, couples therapy is beneficial for all couples.
The love language quiz is a perfect example of exercises used by therapists to help couples open up. At Doctors Park Mental Health Center, we believe therapy is a way for couples to find the source of their problems and find effective ways to cope with this problem. Furthermore, learning how to communicate and prevent future problems from becoming major issues. Restore peace within your home and strengthen your relationship by reaching out today.